Reflections On Friends

Editorial / April 22, 2010

Ky postim ekziston gjithashtu në Vesionin Shqip

Sometimes ago, a friend of mine told me that in May, in Japan they celebrate the Cherry Flowers Day. In fact, this month it’s not just the month when the flowers bloom is celebrated, but also is the time when a person reflects more. After he left winter behind and is greeting farewell to spring, this month reminds to all of us that it’s the right time to think about our relationships with others. The uncommon in our life that we chose to call friends. Some of them we made along the way through years, some others are friends of our friends. Searching in my drawers, I ran into a postcard: “Great and faraway bridges cannot be built destroying the small and closer ones”. It’s an Muslim saying. I loved to read it once more, because it made me think. Time, days, months run too fast, grabbing with them encounters we meant but we didn’t actually accomplish, they take with them birthdays where we never were, they take with them quarrels that time can never resolve. All these mean distance. Since we’re in May, Peace and friends are worth celebrating during this month. When I was writing these lines, one of the local media in Tirana published in its first page a photo of PM Sali Berisha with ex-PM Fatos Nano. It was a friendly photo. One of those photos that don’t excite you but simply offer an intimate atmosphere even by knowing that these two persons have been “vowed” enemies. In May we also have the summer season started, so be careful on your relations; when you rest and you’re on vacation, you should be in good company. Renouncing from occasional people in your life means respect for oneself. Friendship due to circumstances has inevitably become part of our lifestyle. Nonetheless, this shouldn’t impede us to look around and to define the coordinates we deserve and not the ones we’re actually living. The more and more psychologists are conducting researches on friendship and the ways how to strengthen them. Statistics show that the secret of being a friend is to be true to the other, to unconditionally love him and to know how to listen to him. If your friend is not there anymore, even if you were sincere and true, don’t panic, because you’ve lost a friendship you’ve never had and, if you realise that you’ve been unfair to a friend, telephone, internet, the car and any other mean named technology can instantly connect you with him. If it happens that your friend is the one across the street, you just have to cross that street and regain him. There are lots of ways to see through the mirror, one of them is how your friends see you.

Ky postim ekziston gjithashtu në Vesionin Shqip

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Irena Shabani
Is an Albanian freelance journalist and human rights activist specialising in investigative journalism. She co-founded Panorama, the leading newspaper in Albania, where she served as managing editor from 2002 to 2003. Prior to Panorama she was a journalist at Shekulli and Gazeta Shqiptare and has been part of the Albanian Human Rights Group from its beginning. She has collaborated on programmes for the International Research and Exchanges Board, investigating topics involving crime and political corruption and continues to collaborates with foreign organisations and local media focused on social problems and minority rights.

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